Being: Conscious, mortal existence; life.
Every month we welcome two families, two people, two voices to share their stories in whatever way they chose. We hope that you find joy in their daily lives, and their simple habit of just being.
There are many things I expected when I had my first child. I knew it would be very busy and demanding. I knew there would be feeding, and middle of the night cries, I knew I would be the primary care giver and booboo kisser. I would have to teach them to talk, read, be polite and how to get dressed.
I never expected to be the one learning. Learning to love in the most selfless form possible, learn to be humble, learning about life from kids that can’t even tie their shoe laces. Some lessons were easy and others grip my heart and pull it apart.
Two weeks ago my son asked me “Why do you always look at your phone and not enjoy a good swim with us? You should have fun and not look at your phone”. It hit me like a ton of bricks. He was right and in a painful way. I always have excuses to avoid getting in the pool with the kids. I have work to finish, I want a break, I want to read a book…the truth is that I hate the idea of putting a swimming suit on. I have not been the most healthy person these past couple of years and it is showing. I make excuses. I hide behind them, but my son can see right through my lies. So for the past week I have been more mindful of my internet use and of being active. Every time I feel the pull to pick up my phone, I stop and remind myself to be there now. This is one of the ways I am learning from my little zen masters, but this lesson is relatively easy.
The hardest lesson for me right now is that of learning to let go. As my children are growing older I see signs of what’s to come. A hand that doesn’t want to be held, a wave of the hand instead of a hug, a little more independence, and the long hours away in school. I know I should be glad to have some of my own independence back, and I am, but it is bittersweet. How can I still be a mom if they need me less and less? What role will I play in their lives? That is one lesson I am trying to learn a little bit each day.
Who knew that I would learn much more from my children? I gave them life, and they are teaching me life.
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This month we welcome Imene Said Kouidri as a guest in our Being series. A photographer and mother of three, Imene shares her reflections on daily life alongside her beautiful photography on her blog, which you can visit here.
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